Thanks to those parents who attended the parent evening on 7 September. A special thanks to the three students who spoke so openly and clearly about significant intrapersonal and interpersonal learning that has happened for them this year. Well done!
‘Socialisation’, while obviously not a formal part of the curriculum, is nevertheless an important part of the educational experience at school. Helping boys to become increasingly “response-able” to self and others is a vital service to them and to the society of which they are members. Boys need constant reminders from teachers and parents to be socially aware. This means correcting them for all sorts of ‘seemingly small’ infractions of anti-social behaviour: talking while eating; putting feet on seats in classrooms, at home and on public transport; talking loudly or over the top of others; texting while another is trying engage in face-to-face conversation; leaving rubbish behind for others to clean; coughing, sneezing and yawning without covering the mouth; swearing in public (even though no harm is intended); not contributing to household costs whilst having a part-time job; yelling in arguments; speaking maliciously of others; neglecting to use the words ‘please’, ‘thank you’ and ‘excuse me’; lying and exaggerating; taking or borrowing other people’s items without asking; giving into fear instead of standing up for what is known to be right; opening closed doors without knocking; … the list is huge! All these may seem rather unimportant – I would argue (in terms of wellbeing), that indeed they’re not – moreover, if you put a number of them together, you begin to unearth a description of a most unattractive personality – one which will repel decent friends and one which will eventually be at the bottom of the list of desired employees. Boys will respond to simple, consistent correction for behaviours, which they know are inappropriate and socially irresponsible … and of course, the younger they are and the sooner you start, the easier it will be.
It is imperative that the adults in their lives take an active interest in promoting gentle-manly behaviour rather than in turning a blind eye to behaviour which labels them as socially unaware and ignorant.
Director of Student Wellbeing